Ignorance is bliss… unless we are talking about someone else’s ignorance. And in this case we are. I will be the first to admit that my talking about gay marriage – or gay anything – is like Sarah Palin musing on the global ramifications of power struggles in the Middle East. It will most likely be a Katie Couric moment but here we go…
If marriage is an institution supported by this country then it must be made available to all of its citizens according to the law. If however, it is strictly a religious institution then a constitutional amendment determining who can and cannot have access to it is sort of missing the point. Religious freedom except for people who are not religious is a mutually exclusive concept. And if we keep going down this path the concept of a Christ-like Christian will become an oxymoron. And speaking of moron…
I have had it with The View and I blame Barbara Walters. First she allows Elisabeth to be the voice of fear and war and then magically on Wednesday after the election all of it is immediately forgotten and forgiven. It is painfully obvious that Elisabeth’s opinions are not her own but rather the talking points being given to her to fit the part. OK. I don’t like it but I can excuse it because Elisabeth comes by her hate honestly. She knows exactly what she is doing and in her world being young, blonde and married to a football star gives her permission to be a bitch. What does she care? Her children will be able to buy their way out of any problem. By the way, Harold says she’s not married to the good football player… his brother is the good one. I wouldn’t know. I just know the football player who married Elisabeth went for a Hail Mary pass and ended up with just a pass to hell.
But now we’ve got that Cherry, Cheryl, Seymour… I really don’t care what her name is. Yesterday she admitted that while she does have an issue with gay marriage for spiritual reasons, she really wasn’t sure about all the facts and hadn’t really read much about it. Oh, but the idiot did mention that she was still looking for the perfect gravy boat for Ellen and Portia. OK. You know what? When you are given a national platform on a TV show called The View, being too lazy to do some research isn’t an acceptable excuse. And when people’s rights are being taken away, your attempt at humor is insulting. I’m sure Ellen found the gravy boat comment comforting. Try opening a newspaper between reruns of Friends you lazy good for nothing because the show you are a part of is supposedly about well-informed, intelligent women discussing current issues. Little Cheryl having a vagina suggests that one out of three is qualification enough. She is making women everywhere look bad and Barbara Walters should have a little more respect for her audience than to allow this to go on any longer.
I haven’t had a whole lot to say about this issue because to be quite honest, I come from a generation that really never talked about it. But then Margaret’s nephew reminded me that lots of people are reading this blog so I need to educate myself.
It seems to me that the loudest Christians have suddenly become the most un-Christ-like people. And my sincere apologies to those good-hearted Christians who have found themselves caught in the crosshairs. You know, Harold is a Catholic. How would all of you feel about a constitutional amendment banning meat on Fridays? How about banning dancing because Baptist seem to have two left feet? And how about birth control? A lot of religions don’t allow it. I wonder how little Cherry from The View would feel about a constitutional amendment banning that?
If you want to protect Holy Wedlock, by all means padlock the church door whenever guys who love Judy Garland come-a-knocking. But if you want to protect marriage push for a constitutional amendment to ban divorce.
But let’s step away from the church and state argument for a second. I posted yesterday that love is about the heart not the body. Trust me, if it was about the body a lot of us would be in a world of trouble. You can’t legislate love between two consenting adults. You just can’t no matter how hard you try. If you want to save marriage, marry someone you love. And that’s all I have to say about that.
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Spot on! Bravo!
Excellently worded and well thought out. I wish everyone had the same sense of logic and consideration as you.
By: Rae Alton on July 8, 2009
at 2:44 PM
Welcome to all the new “wedgies” (fans of Margaret & Helen) – that’s the great thing about this front porch blog – a chance to share and learn from each other.
By: Greytdog Δ on December 22, 2008
at 6:38 AM
Oh Helen I can’t tell you how much your blog is coming to mean to me, but you are who I hope to be in 60 years. I am not gay, nor am I an American, but it makes me so happy to hear someone state so succinctly everything that has saddened me about Prop 8.
I have always admired your generation because you survived a depression and a world war, and because I love my grandparents and everything they taught me, now I am loving the lessons you are teaching.
By: Shelley on December 22, 2008
at 4:59 AM
I’ve already commented, but for those late to the party, one of the best answers to the hate-mongers who voted for Prop. 8 is the Jack Black online musical on http://www.funnyordie.com. Turn on your speakers and prepare to laugh. Here’s the link:
http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/c0cf508ff8/prop-8-the-musical-starring-jack-black-john-c-reilly-and-many-more-from-fod-team-jack-black-craig-robinson-john-c-reilly-and-rashida-jones
By: K2inSR on December 5, 2008
at 4:00 PM
I did a post like this about two weeks ago on my blog. I took a couple great photos at the recent protest in Sacramento (that is where I live). There were a few very clever signs.
By: ragazzainteractive on December 2, 2008
at 1:13 AM
if gay people get less rights does that mean we get to pay less tax?
also; marriage was around long before christianity, in fact, since neolithic times; it has been adopted into religious instiutions, but isn’t JUST religious.
By: possibleparadox on November 29, 2008
at 8:02 PM
Brava, Madame Philpot. Brava!
By: operamad on November 29, 2008
at 7:47 PM
You ladies are cool and intelligent. I just love the header photo…two ladies buzzing around the might of US military power …did the captain come chasing after you as you did burnouts and wheelies!!
Must check out your various comments. You certainly seem to have a fan club.
I think you’ll be an inspiration to my mum as she starts her blog.
Kevin
http://simdecksimulator.wordpress.com
By: Kevin on November 29, 2008
at 4:54 PM
Love this, Helen. For someone who claims to be uneducated about this topic, you seem to have it down better than most. I’m thinking that you need to market “WWHD” bracelets (What Would Helen Do?)! I enjoy all your blogs, you are one insightful lady.
By: Lesley on November 26, 2008
at 11:39 PM
[...] within the judicial system and now are creeping up all over. Prop 8 is a great example. The Margaret and Helen blog stated the dilemma very succinctly : “If marriage is an institution supported by this country [...]
By: The Golden Triad: Power, Money, Religion « life thru dusty lenses on November 20, 2008
at 9:16 AM
As a 56 year old gay man who married his British partner of 16 1/2 years in Brighton, England last year where it is legal, the irony struck me that there I was an American, from the country (America) which, the British people traveled to and formed, to escape the bonds of religious persecution, being married because the bonds of religious persecution control the American government and restrict my ability to marry the partner of my choice. Our “Gay” relationship has statistically lasted longer than most heterosexual marriages. You and your blog rock. I thank you for making the world a bit brighter.
Craig Davidson
By: Craig Davidson on November 20, 2008
at 12:14 AM
Elizabitch Hasselblech………….*barf*
And Sherry “I thought the earth was flat* Shepherd………two of the most idiotic individuals on television.
By: Fanny on November 19, 2008
at 11:27 PM
“If you want to save marriage, marry someone you love.” That line made me cry!
My partner of 10 yrs. and I were married in Canada 2 yrs. ago. Unfortunately, my Mom died before she could see her 57 yr old daughter marry the love of her life in a LEGAL ceremony.
We have bought land in Canada and plan to retire there because they have a federal law recognizing our relationship as equal to others.
Thanks for speaking out for us! My Mom would have loved you both!!
By: Mainiac on November 18, 2008
at 7:00 PM
Bravo.
If you want some truth about Gay Marriage go here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8gDze9YBVxU
By: Kevin on November 18, 2008
at 6:48 PM
Thank you for another wonderful post! Your observations about Christians exhibiting un-Christianlike behavior are spot on. It has always pained me to see hateful people using their religious beliefs as an excuse for their otherwise inexcusable behaviors. A perfect example can be found in news footage of this past weekend’s protests; my personal favorite was a placard reading “Who Would Jesus Hate?” Ummm, nobody. So in addition to being inflammatory and capitalization-challenged, the sign was essentially incorrect.
Drives me batshit! It is necessary for these fundamentalists to hide behind their unassailable religious beliefs instead of basing their opposition to gay marriage on sound reasoning subject to debate and discussion. (After all, anyone who would beat up on the little Baby Jesus can be dismissed as a heathen terrorist with the morals of an alleycat who doesn’t care about the children or the future of this country………) If a gal questions their “argument”, she must not only support her own position but defend her character as well. While it’s apparent that this is just a diversionary tactic to move attention away from the real issues and a fundamentally weak argument, it sure is hard to let being called a godless, immoral, unAmerican whore slide……
By: POAndrea on November 17, 2008
at 5:02 PM
Made my day. Thanks, again and again.
By: Teresa on November 17, 2008
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